— 1
In what way am I carrying the unlived life of each of my parents?

— 2
Where am I stuck, blocked, as each/either of my parents are blocked?

— 3
Where am I caught in a compensation which, though it may be productive for me and others, shackles me to the consequences of someone else's life?

— 4
How am I perpetuating the world view, strategies, the behaviours of my mother? Of my father? Where do they show up like unwelcome flashes in my intimate relationships, in my relationships with my own children, in a way that sometimes feels inescapable and unnervingly familiar? Such shadow work is humiliating, but necessary to find freedom to move elsewhere.

— 5
Where is the spontaneous child I once was? None of us have a chance of living all diverse dimensions of potentials - especially when we consider the narrow tribal gate through which all children are obliged to pass through further limiting our choices and range. [remember the beetroot]

— 6
Where is the unlived life which haunts me, summons me, and intimidates me? We may be frightened by the scope of this unlived life, but it is more frightening to have stayed stuck in a life of no consequence and no contribution. 

— 7
Where am I asking others to take responsibility for my life? 

— 8
What part of myself do I need to get to know better in order to feel more complete, to have not simply been a visitor here?

— 9
What agenda is now demanding my attention?

— 10
What growing up do I have to achieve?

— 11
What security, old identity, relationship, pathology do I need to leave behind?